Get social
Swingers are not sexually ravenous beings who will aggressively sit on your face as soon as you make eye contact. Although, it does depend on how horny you are. By and large, they’re ordinary people with positively open minds towards sex. So don’t be afraid to indulge in one of the most important and rewarding aspects of swinging: socialising!
Whilst being respectful, don’t be afraid to politely approach other swingers and socialize like you would in a bar or club. Honestly, some of the best conversations I’ve had have been in swinger house clubs. Once you’ve mingled and established yourself as a good, non-pushy person who can hold a decent conversation, you may feel a tap on the shoulder as you’re invited to join someone in some swinger fun.
One solid social tip I can give for single males is, when conversing with a couple in a swinger house party, is to acknowledge both equally. Don’t just focus on the woman, speak to her partner too. It’s a matter of respect and solely focusing on one half of a couple isn’t viewed as polite. Never make the man feel like he’s not present.
Learn some swinging rules
There is a lot of freedom in the swinging world, but it wouldn’t be a world without some sort of order, would it? Like almost any other sex scene, there are rules. They are there for a reason and should be respected.
For example, if the club you’re going to has an area for couples only, it means that it’s a space for couples to enjoy themselves without single males watching. Don’t lurk around or try to sneak into these areas. It won’t be well received and you’ll likely be asked to leave.
But don’t worry. If you’re voyeuristic and love to watch others having sex, then swinger house clubs often have play areas to facilitate this too. There are also plenty of swinging couples who adore single males watching them or even joining in. Just respect the wishes of those who don’t.
Be polite and be respectful.
Don’t be pushy, don’t be a creep, and understand that no means no.View swinging as more than just sex. View it as a learning opportunity and the chance to make new, like-minded friends.Be honest about yourself and be an individual, two traits that are widely respected in the swinging community.